Thursday, February 6, 2014

What is Real Love?

When I was a little girl I remember dreaming of the day I would finally be chosen! Just like Cinderella, I would fall in love and finally get to be a Bride and wear a glass slipper!! My parents had this whimsical, and now I realize very rare, courtship that started when they were 15 and 16 years old. They dated all throughout high school and college, wrote love letters, swooned constantly and finally tied the knot after six years of dating. 

My mother adores my father and has consistently throughout my 34 years of life referred to him in many wonderful words which equate to basically prince charming. It's a tad sickening but also pretty stinkin' amazing this day and age.

So naturally I grow up and by high school I am on the prowl, looking for my man on a white horse to ride up and save the day like my dad did for my mom.

He never showed up.

Ok well I am sure in college I will meet him. I mean, there are just as many guys here as girls on this huge campus, I am bound to see him riding up!

He never showed.

That's ok, I am out of college now into the real world and I am going to the singles church group. No doubt I can jump up on that saddle with him there. I'm in the singles group for years and not one date. It was as if they were scared of girls? In fact, I didn't see any guys asking any girls out. I prayed and prayed for God to send me that one man who would make everything ok.

He never showed.

So I decided to date a bad boy. He was so handsome and said all the right things. I finally felt like I was the girl in the romantic comedy! I finally felt like my mom did about my dad. I had butterflies, swoon fever and heart palpitations I didn't know existed! Then suddenly, my Cinderella shoe was broken and glass shattered everywhere. Yes and you guessed it, heart broke and left trampled by the very horse he rode in on. 

So I decided that perhaps I might be going about this all wrong. I learned that the bad boy drama was just lust and infatuation with the idea of love. It wasn't real love. With the help of Cheryl Paul {featured below}, prayer and guidance by both counselors and the great counselor {the Holy Spirit} I learned what love really is. 

To be honest I don't think I would have recognized my wonderful husband without this insight. I had to dig deep and figure out what was truth and what was a lie. What had Hollywood and my culture sold me? Counterfeit Love.  

So with that I want to share some great pieces that speak to this idea. One is more of a secular piece while the other is a Christian scripture based piece. They both speak a great deal of truth. So for Valentines day, let's explore more on the subject of  L-O-V-E!

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Rick Warren is the pastor of Saddleback Church in Lakeforest, California. His congregation averages around 25,000 weekly attendees and has more than 300 Community ministries to groups such as prisoners, CEO's, addicts, single parents and those with HIV/AIDS. He is the author of New York Times bestseller "The Purpose Driven Life". I get his daily devotionals called Daily Hope. If you want to sign up visit his website and blog here Daily Hope

 What it Really Means to be "In Love"
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Cheryl Paul has counseled thousands of people worldwide through her private practice, bestselling books, home study programs and website called Conscience Transitions. She was a life saver for me as I battled anxiety about relationships. She has appeared several times on "The Oprah Winfrey Show" as well as "Good Morning America" and other top media shows and publications around the globe. Her work is nothing short of amazing!

Enjoy and Happy Valentines Day!! xxoo


  1. Such a thoughtful post! I love it!


  2. Thank you Jamie! Checking out your blog now!!